When it comes to marriage and choosing the right person to spend our lives with, we can’t help but wonder how we can be sure that we are making the right decision. The truth is, no one is perfect, and we all have our flaws, so finding someone who can tolerate us and whose flaws we can tolerate can seem to be a big deal.

According to Alain de Botton, a founder of The School of Life, there seems to be a lot of anger that we hold on to, anger and rage that we secretly have, and it has us sulking about the way our love lives have gone.  However, he says that if we are able to turn that anger into sadness, then we can make progress. Why? Because if we can turn rage into grief, we have given up hope entirely.

In his words, “scratch the surface of any regularly angry person, and you will find a wild optimist.” Rage is primarily driven by hope. And when it comes to love and relationships, it is extremely hard to give up hope because there are many, many industries that are all designed to inflate our expectations of love and what a loving relationship or marriage should be.

One of the reasons you will marry the wrong person is because you are strange and difficult to live with. We all are. In fact, there are many things that are wrong with us, things that only our closest friends and family know about (and very probably our ex-lovers), but they would not dare tell us.

It’s like most of us are addicts but not in terms of a substance we are taking, but an addict in terms of a behavior or pattern you are taking in order to not be alone with yourself and with your thoughts, and more importantly, not to feel your deeper emotions and get in touch with yourself and who you are as a person deep inside. So, you remain addicted to doing anything that keeps you away from yourself. And since you don’t know yourself, you can successfully relate to another person, let alone love them.

Love requires you to do things you don’t want to do. Not everyone is comfortable expressing their vulnerabilities. You probably don’t want to show your partner you are vulnerable and scared.

According to psychologists, people use two patterns of behavior whenever they are in danger of becoming vulnerable. One group of people gets anxiously attached.

This means that instead of saying, “I need you, I depend on you, I love you”, they say, “Where have you been? You’re 15 minutes late.” But then, they start getting critical and strict when actually they want to ask the scary question, “Do you still love me? Am I still important to you?” But, they don’t dare ask those questions out of fear.

The other type of people is avoidant, which means that when they need someone, they act cold and aloof like they don’t need them at all. They don’t reveal the need and love they have for another person. Instead, they start rejecting them. And this pattern gets toxic because other people start wondering whether they are important to them, which results in a lack of trust.

It’s as if we don’t dare to be humble and vulnerable and reveal how much we need another person, so in a way, we reject love. This is because we don’t know how to love.

According to Alain, love is not an instinct but a skill that needs to be learned. To love is to have the capacity and willingness to interpret someone’s not very appealing behavior in order to find more benevolent reasons why that not-so-good behavior may be unfolding. Or in other words, to love someone is to apply charity and generosity of interpretation for someone else’s actions towards us. And in doing that, we will cut some slack for ourselves because we are not perfect either.

Another reason why we will probably end up marrying the wrong person is because many of our early experiences of love are bound up with various kinds of suffering. As a result, there is a shift when we start dating and choosing love partners. We think that we want to find someone who will make us happy, but we are not. Actually, we are looking for someone who will feel familiar with us.

And there does a problem arise because familiarity and happiness are oftentimes two different things. Familiarity can be bound up with a particular kind of suffering and torture. This explains why when people encourage us to go out on a date with an amazing person, we end up “not feeling it” even though we agree that they are smart, charming, and amazing. We tell our friends that we didn’t feel the spark, that they were boring etc.

In fact, we are really trying to say that we have spotted that this wonderful and quite accomplished person won’t make us suffer in ways we are accustomed to suffering for us to feel that love is real. And so, we reject them.

We are not on a journey to be happy, we are on a quest to suffer in ways that feel familiar, and this is the main reason why we will end up marrying the wrong person.

So…

How To Avoid Marrying The Wrong Person? 

Finding love is not easy. However, when you do find love, the question is whether you two will be compatible in the long run. So, here are some tips that will help you determine if you are with the person you should marry. 

First, when you think about marrying the person you are in a relationship with, you should really look into their virtues and flaws. You should look at who they are as a person and don’t expect them to change. You must like them as they are in the present, without hoping that one day they will change the annoying habits they have. In other words, avoid marrying potential. 

Furthermore, you should be open with your future spouse. The biggest mistake that couples make is not being honest and open about their wants and needs in a relationship. They need to be honest about what they could and could not tolerate in the partnership. Openness and sincere communication can be the key to everlasting marriage.  You and your partner should be able to discuss your feelings about having kids, financial planning, future plans, etc. before you decide to get married. 

Finally, both partners should be aware of and take care of the emotional needs of their partner. That’s how they build their trust and keep the love and passion between them alive. Before you marry someone, you need to ask yourself, “Do I admire and respect my partner? Can I trust them? Am I able to rely on them? Do I believe them and trust their judgment? Do I feel safe around them? Can I be vulnerable with them? Am I at peace with them?” 

And lastly, you are responsible for your happiness. You need to be happy and fulfilled by yourself before being happily married. Marriage by itself is not vital to happiness. If you are miserable alone, you will be miserable in your marriage as well. 

How Do You Know You Married The Wrong Person? 

Of course, every individual is different and has their own breaking points; however, some signs can be useful to you if you are confused and wondering whether you married the wrong woman or man. 

1. You are arguing more frequently. 

Bickering is the slow killer of relationships. So, when it starts happening in a marriage, it is a sign that the marriage is in serious trouble. But then, you start feeling that you married someone who has no idea who you are as a person. Someone who has become your enemy.

2. You no longer talk about your day. 

When you no longer need to talk about your day and share the little things that happened to you, then probably the connection you have with them is lost. Not sharing things is a red flag, and it usually means that your partner is not your best friend, and the marriage will slowly deteriorate as a result.

3. You often think about what your life would have been if you married someone else. 

When you catch yourself fantasizing about other people, it is a sign you are married to the wrong person. When you think about your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend and what would your life have been like if you had married them instead, then you need to really look into your spouse and ask yourself if you are happy with them and your life together.

4. You find excuses to not spend time together. 

Another sign that you are not happy with your spouse is that you often look for other things to do instead of spending time with them. The intimacy between you is probably lost, and therefore, you start avoiding them because you are not ready to face the reality that you probably have married the wrong person for you.

5. Your fights often escalate into screaming at each other. 

If you are someone who never raises their voice, and then you find yourself screaming and shouting at your partner, then probably something doesn’t feel right between you and your marriage. Fights can often be constructive and good when both partners are open to discussion and compromise but yelling, shouting, and calling names are never good.

6. You are impatient around them. 

Almost everything your partner does bothers you. You are frequently impatient and nervous around them. It is as if you don’t recognize the person that is your spouse, and they have many flaws you think you overlooked that are now getting on your nerves.

7. You behave more like roommates and business partners. 

You start feeling that you and your spouse have nothing in common except bills. Your marriage has now turned into a business transaction, and you no longer have a romantic interest in one another. 

If you found yourself in these situations, then you are now probably questioning your decision and wondering… 

Is It Normal To Regret Marrying Your Spouse?

Feelings of regret are typical in a marriage, especially when you have had certain expectations and they have not been met by your spouse. So, it is a human thing for feelings of regret, shame, and guilt to overwhelm you. 

Perhaps you realized that you and your spouse don’t have anything in common. Maybe the quirks you loved about your person when you met them are now the red flags that annoy you and make you angry that you even married them in the first place. 

Whatever your reasons, it is perfectly normal to regret marrying your spouse. And it is never too late to start anew and choose a happier life for yourself. 

What To Do When You Are Unhappy In Your Marriage? 

If you are feeling unhappy in your marriage or if you are wondering what’s the right thing to do – whether you should divorce your husband and have a fresh start, or accept your decision and learn how to live with it for the sake of your children (if you have them) – then, I would advise you to talk to your closest friends and family about your feelings. Sometimes, a new perspective on things can do wonders and remove your doubts. 

Or talk to a professional counselor so that you can be sure that they are objectively viewing the situation. Then, they can help you by leading you to make the right decision to solve your problems. 

Good luck!

People often say that the friendships you make in high school are for life. And we can all agree that high school, along with your high school friends, is most certainly a memorable time for anyone.

It is a time when you had fun, had your (first) crushes, shared secrets, were there for one another, and loved each other unconditionally… those were your best friends. However, not everyone stays close to their best friends from high school after graduation. Sometimes, your life paths separate you no matter how much you want to stay close.

Do you stay close to your high school friends? Or do friendships end in high school?

We all like to believe that high school friends are forever. No one wants to separate from their best friends with whom they shared so many laughs and cries, went to amazing parties, studied together, have one another’s back, and so on. But life happens. And it brings changes. Some will go to college, some to trade school, some to the military, etc. Everyone’s life is supposed to change. That’s why even the strongest friendships sometimes cannot stand the time.

You will become busy, your high school friends will become busy, and suddenly, you won’t have time to see each other as much as you had. Of course, there are bonds that are unbreakable, and this change cannot shake them.

However, knowing and being okay with having some people leave your life is okay. The most important thing is to remember them always and be grateful for the impact they had on your life. Because it’s true – high school friends are true gems!

They are literally close to one another. They live in the same neighborhood. So, it is easier for them to keep their bond strong when they are living so close to one another and they can see each other often.

Or their friendship is low maintenance. Meaning they don’t need to constantly see each other or communicate with each other every day to feel connected. They can go on for days without speaking and then see each other and feel as if nothing happened. They can resume their friendship and communicate as no time has passed by.

Finally, they have the same interests and hobbies that they probably started together in high school, and they still enjoy doing together.

Why do most friendships end after high school?

The main reasons why many high school friends lose touch after high school are: First, for them, being connected constantly and seeing each other on a regular basis is very important.

And second, things between them and around them have changed. Meaning their lives change, their routines are now different, they have changed, their personalities have changed, and so, they feel as if they don’t have anything in common anymore. Change is part of life, and so we all need to embrace it and let go of people that no longer belong to the next phase of where are we headed.

Do friends change after high school?

Yes. People change as life goes on. So do high school friends. But, whether you stay friends after the changes that you will both inevitably go through, here are some things that you should always remember:

Accept the fact that both you and your friends are always changing and growing. That’s life. Your high school friends won’t stay the same and neither will you. And that is really a beautiful thing.

You can use the help of social media to stay close. Today, many high school friends have reconnected through Facebook and Instagram. Social media allows us to keep in touch and be involved in each other’s lives in times when we don’t have much time to see each other regularly.

Some of your high school friends were toxic. Yes, no friendship is drama-free, and even best friends have some conflicts. However, as it happens in any friend group, there can be some bullies and toxic individuals that everyone fears. And so, as high school ends, so end those toxic friendships.  

You can have a fresh start. Graduation is something you will remember your whole life. The end of high school is the beginning of the new life that is ahead of you. And that life is full of possibilities.

So, the question remains: Do high school best friends last?

Below are 11 reasons why your high school friend will be your best friend for life!

1. You know everything about them.

Including their crushes, their exes, all of it. You know all their secrets. That’s what makes your bond unbreakable and long-lasting.

2. You have survived high school together.

Meaning you have survived your most awkward period together. Hormones. Mood swings. You have gone through it together. Hand in hand. And that counts for something.

3. Their parents treat you like you are family.

They love you and you love them as well. You feel at home at their house. In fact, you love their company and their jokes. Plus, there was always something delicious cooking in the oven there! And it really felt like home.

4. They have seen you at your worst.

They have seen you cry. They were there when you were sick. They have seen you after waking up… They have seen all of you – good and bad.

5. You know all their embarrassing stories (and they know yours).

But you won’t tell anyone. And most importantly, you were in those stories with them as well because you were inseparable in high school.

6. They are your personal therapist.

No one can understand you (and your mood swings) better than your high school friend. They are always there for you to listen to your drama and console you when you are going through a bad time. Plus, they give you chocolate and they will eat fast food with you because they know what is necessary during those moments of distress.

7. You can be yourself with them.

You feel free to tell them everything without being afraid that they will take it the wrong way. Because they know you, they know the real you, and they love you. And you love them.

8. You have had your fair share of drama and fighting.

Even though sometimes you have spent months without talking after a big fight, you always found your way to each other. And every time you patch up things, your friendship becomes even stronger.

9. You have the best drunk memories together.

Some of the best nights of your life you spend with them. Nights that were filled with laughs and alcohol. You were the best drinking buddies and perhaps still are! Cheers!

10. They will never get tired of listening to your stories again and again.

There are some things that you keep repeating over and over again because of how attached you are to them. Only your best friends will listen to the same story a thousand times and never say anything to you.

11. You can always count on them.

No matter what kind of problem you have on your hands and how serious it is, you can always count on your high school friend to help you. That’s true friendship.

Are you still friends with your best friend from high school?

What is An Empath?

An empath is a person who feels deeply. They are someone who has an incredible ability to put themselves into someone else’s shoes and feel what they are feeling. An empath can feel the pain, the sadness, and the happiness of others as their own.

Empaths are deeply sensitive and have great intuition. They can see and feel things that an ordinary person cannot. And when we are talking about empaths, female empaths are one of the most mysterious and deep people in the world.

Female Empaths And Relationships

Female empaths are some of the most amazing people out there. While having an empath for a partner can be one of the most wonderful things that can happen to you, it can still be a challenge for some men to be in a relationship with a female empath. (1)

Because, when it comes to relationships, female empaths can struggle to find love due to their intense personality. They feel everything deeply. Their love is as deep as the ocean. Therefore, it takes a real man to be with a woman like that and not be overwhelmed by her intensity.

What Happens When A Female Empath Falls In Love?

A female empath loves differently from other women. She loves hard, honestly, intensely, and unconditionally. She wears her heart on her sleeve. She lets her partner know where he stands with her.

When a female empath falls in love, she commits to her partner. She’s fiercely loyal to him. She gives him all of her attention.

When an empath woman falls in love with a man, she accepts him for who he is. She is aware of his weaknesses and imperfections, and she embraces and loves him for that.

When an empath woman falls in love with a man, she fights for him. She does her best to keep the spark between them alive and nurture the relationship. And most importantly, she doesn’t leave at the first sign of trouble.

Why Do Female Empaths Struggle In Romantic Relationships?

This is because female empaths are very honest. They don’t play games or date around. They can’t be in a relationship with someone who is not ready for them.

Here are 12 reasons why female empaths struggle in romantic relationships:

1. They Know What They Want

An empath woman doesn’t look for a fling. She knows that she wants a stable relationship filled with love and respect. She wants a partner who can be with her through the hard times. If the man is not serious from the start, she will never begin the relationship in the first place.

2. They Are Intense

Empaths are people who want only deep and meaningful connections with others. They are not superficial nor are interested in the ordinary. Some like this intensity of the empaths, and for others, it is too much that they cannot handle being around them for too long.

3. They Are Feeling Their Partner’s Emotions

Female empaths are very sensible to how their partner is feeling. They are very in tune with the people that are in their life. Their empathic nature makes them able to understand how everyone is feeling and what they are thinking. That’s the reason why they are the most loving partners and friends anyone can have.

4. They Value Reliability

Men who are wishy-washy should never even try to have a relationship with an empathic woman because she needs stability more than anything in her life. She is not interested in someone who doesn’t answer her calls, shows up late, or cancels dates at the last minute.

5. They Are Extremely Supportive

Female empaths are the biggest cheerleaders for their partners. They are always there for them, supporting them and encouraging them in everything they do. Their pure heart wants their partner to be happy. They deserve a partner who will be supportive as well.

6. They Do Everything To Make Their Partners Happy

Female empaths want the people around them to be happy. They want to see happy faces. The sadness of others deeply affects them and they do anything they can to help the ones in need. When it comes to their partners, they go out of their way to fulfill their wishes. They are the most loving, caring, and warm partners you can find.

7. They Are Very Loyal

Female empaths are incredibly loyal people because they know how much it hurts when the one you love betrays you. That’s why they never cheat on their partners because they don’t want anyone to feel that pain. They don’t want to hurt anyone, especially their partners.

8. They Are Too Sincere

An empath is never good when it comes to white lies or sugar-coating things. Instead of telling you what you want to hear, this woman will always tell you the truth. And for most people, it is hard having to face the truth every time.

9. They Are Always Ready To Help

Because empaths are very much in tune with their emotions as well as the emotions of others, they always want to help the ones they need their help. They will listen to you, cry with you, and offer you solutions to your problems without expecting anything in return.

10. They Can Be Too Understanding Of Manipulative Partners

Of course, female empaths don’t enter into a relationship knowing they will be abused or lied to. When they are in a relationship with someone, they are with them because they are in love and sincerely want to be with them. That’s why when they are with a manipulator, someone who lies to them, abuses them, and takes them for granted, they have trouble leaving them because of the love they feel for them.

They may not be aware that there are people out there who can exploit their warm and giving nature for their selfish reasons. That’s why it is crucial for female empaths to choose their partners carefully and to leave behind those who don’t match their energy and can’t satisfy their emotional needs.

11. They Don’t Give Up Easily

Female empaths are fighters. They are fighters for love. They don’t give up easily on the things and people they love and care for. That’s why when an empathic woman decides to walk away from you, there is nothing you can do to bring her back because she has been hurt to the point of no return.

12. An Empathic Woman Needs Her Freedom

No one can put an empath woman in a cage. When she senses that a man is trying to restrict her in some way – she will leave him without a single doubt.  

13. An Empathic Woman Is Often Misunderstood

Most men cannot understand what it is really like to be with a woman who is an empath until they get in a relationship with her. She is more complex than most people give her credit for. This woman is a walking mystery, and her partner will always feel like she hides something from him.  

14. An Empathic Woman Needs Emotional Satisfaction

In order for an empathic woman to be completely fulfilled in a relationship, she needs to be satisfied both emotionally and physically. She can’t have the physical without the emotional, or the other way around.

15. She Doesn’t Do Short-Term Relationships

She doesn’t involve herself in short-term relationships. Her motto is – all or nothing. She would rather stay single than be with someone who doesn’t want to commit.

16. She Asks A Lot Of Questions

An empathic woman wants to be clear to everyone about anything. So, a man can expect to be asked a lot of questions from her because she wants to know everything (not for manipulative reasons, mind you, but to satisfy her curious nature).  

17. She Sees The Best And Worst In People

This woman sees the best and the worst in others. So, this makes her, at times, hard to read and difficult to follow. When you think that she is going to do one thing, she could completely surprise you by doing just the opposite. Also, dating someone with a bad reputation is not a strange thing for her because she sees the good in him.  

18. She Tends To Take Things Very Personally

The emotions are running high in the empath woman. She can be hurt even by the smallest thing because of her oversensitive nature. But she doesn’t hold grudges and she is ready to forgive when someone apologizes. Only that not many men can admit their mistakes.  

19. She Is Deep

This woman is not an ordinary woman. Her feelings are as deep as the ocean. That’s why she can’t be with someone who is not on the same level as she is. She needs deep bonds and connections. She can never be in a shallow relationship.

19. She Loves Hard

An empathic woman loves harder and more intensely than any other. She gives her all but expects the same from the other person. Being with a woman like this is a hard pill to swallow for them.

Being loved by female empaths can be the most wonderful thing that can happen to you. However, many men are just not prepared for this kind of relationship. Most of them realize what they have, but they realize it when it is too late.

Frequently Asked Questions

Do Empaths Attract Other Empaths?

Yes, they do. Empaths can magnetically attract other empaths. What an empath looks for in a relationship is honesty, trust, reliability, and commitment. And if there’s one person that can provide these qualities to them, then that’s undeniably another empath.

When two empaths meet, a deep, strong connection pulls them together. They feel like they’ve finally found someone whose soul matches theirs. Someone who understands them deeply. Someone who can sense their energy and feel the same way they feel and absorb other people’s emotions and energy. Someone who is as honest as they are. Someone that is in tune with what makes them happy.

What Are Female Empaths Like In Their Friendships?

Any friendship with a female empath is one of the deepest, warmest, and most fulfilling friendships anyone can have in their life. In their friendships, female empaths are generous, compassionate, caring, and supportive. Having a female empath as a friend means having someone who is able to feel and understand your innermost feelings. Someone who wants to reach the deepest parts of your soul. Someone who stays by your side through thick and thin and never leaves you to solve your problems and fight your battles alone.

Having a female empath as a friend means having someone who can show you your insecurities and fears and also help you overcome them. Someone who can offer you different perspectives on life and everything that surrounds you. Someone who inspires you to work on yourself, learn, and grow and who inspires you to become the best version of yourself.

Having an empathic woman as a friend is one of the most amazing experiences you can ever have in life, of course, if you’re ready to reciprocate the same love, loyalty, support, and dedication she gives you.

Can Two Empaths Fall In Love?

Yes. Two empathic individuals can fall in love, and when this happens, they’ll connect deeply at all levels, which will lead to a long-term, meaningful, and fulfilling relationship.

When two empaths fall in love, they’ll understand each other deeply and be able to know how the other person feels as well. Their souls will match, and they’ll connect mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

Empathic individuals tend to put other people’s feelings, needs, and desires ahead of their own, so when two empaths fall in love, they’ll feel greatly acknowledged, appreciated, and taken care of.

When two empaths fall in love, they’ll openly show their love. They’ll express their feelings and be vulnerable around each other without worrying that the other person might think they’re “too sensitive” or “weak.” They’ll know how they feel about each other, even if they don’t say it out loud, because they’re able to feel and take on each other’s emotions.

Do Empaths Make Good Lovers?

Dating an empath is not easy. However, empathic individuals possess many traits that make them one of the best lovers that you could ask for in a relationship. Are you wondering what those traits are? Well, first of all, once an empath commits, they’re fiercely loyal to you. There’s nothing they wouldn’t do to make you feel loved, fulfilled, and happy. And they’d never do anything that could break your trust in them.

Then, empaths are natural healers. They can sense and take on other people’s pain. So, being in a relationship with an empath means being with someone who will recognize your emotional wounds and do everything in their power to help you heal them and ease your pain.

Another trait that makes an empath a great relationship partner is their calm and collected nature. You can rarely see an empath express their anger. Even when they’re overwhelmed by anger, they know how to control themselves so as not to pick a fight with you or say or do something that could hurt your feelings. They handle any argument in a calm and civilized manner.

Empaths are optimists too. So, being in a relationship with an empath means being with someone who will inspire you to look on the bright side of life, even when you’re feeling down or going through a tough time in life. It means being with someone who will know what to say or do to put a smile on your face when necessary.

One more trait that makes empaths great lovers is their ability to love intensely and unconditionally. When an empath is in love, they wear their heart on their sleeve. They openly express their feelings, and they shower you with affection.

Being in a relationship with an empath means being with someone who will inspire you to grow personally and spiritually. Someone who will help you overcome your deepest insecurities and fears. Someone who will motivate you to believe in yourself and your potential. Someone who will inspire you to become the best version of yourself.

Honesty is one more quality that makes empaths great lovers. If there’s one thing they hate the most, that’s lying. These people always tell it like it is. They don’t like sugarcoating things or mincing their words. They’ll tell you the truth no matter how unpleasant or cruel it might be. 

In their romantic relationships, empaths are always honest about their feelings, which means you will always know where your relationship is headed.

Why Are Relationships So Hard For Female Empaths?

Empathic individuals struggle in their relationships since they feel things too much. They feel their partners’ feelings on a deeper level, which can intensify their own emotions. The ability to sense their partners’ feelings as if they were their own can often cause them to have mood swings and make them feel emotionally, mentally, and physically drained.

An empath tends to prioritize other people’s needs, feelings, and desires over their own. Sometimes, this can lead them to forget to take care of themselves and neglect their physical and mental health.

All of these things can make an empath’s romantic relationship a big struggle, and in what follows, we’ve presented 6 problems empathic individuals face in romantic relationships.

1. They Can Detect Inconsistency

Empaths hate when a person says one thing and does another. If their partner behaves this way, they’ll immediately recognize their inconsistency. 

Similarly, empaths don’t like when someone is trying to lie to or manipulate them or break their promises. If they notice their partner shows such behaviors, they won’t hide their dissatisfaction. Instead, they’ll call their partner out on their behavior. This, of course, can make things difficult for both people since it disrupts the honesty, trust, and loyalty between them.

2. They Always Prioritize Their Partner’s Needs

An empath puts their partner first. They tend to put their partner’s feelings, needs, and desires ahead of their own. Treating their partner this way can create an imbalance in their relationship. In addition, they also risk becoming pleasers in the relationship.

An empath tends to put their partner first because they want the best for them and want them to be happy. But focusing so much on their partner, the empath is unaware that they may end up looking after themselves last. In some cases, they may not even notice that their partner is taking advantage of them.

3. They Need Their Alone Time

Besides feeling the emotions and energy from within themselves, an empath feels and absorbs the energies and emotions of their partner. This can often make them feel overwhelmed and drained, which is why they often feel a need for physical and emotional space. They feel the need to spend some time alone so as to recover and recharge their batteries.

4. They Can Detect When Things Go Wrong

As we already said, an empath can feel their partner’s emotions and energies as if they were their own. Additionally, they’re highly adept at detecting when something goes wrong in their relationship, even before their partner becomes aware of it. 

The problem with this is that it’s difficult for them to overlook hidden feelings, intentions, problems, or pain. That’s why they spend a lot of time talking about their partner’s feelings so that they know where exactly they stand with them. They also make sure none of their relationship problems remain unresolved.

5. They’re Reluctant To Break Up

Empaths hate to end romantic relationships even if breaking up is the right thing to do. An empath always tries to see the good and potential in their partner, even when they treat them unfairly. So, they’d do everything in their power to hold the relationship together, even if their partner doesn’t understand their effort and commitment.

6. They Take Things Personally

Whether they had a little argument or minor disagreement with their partner or made a sarcastic comment about them, it can be very difficult for an empath to get over it and move on as if nothing had happened. This can create tension in the relationship, particularly if the empath’s partner doesn’t know what makes them feel upset.

Love has happened to you after a long long time.

That tingling sensation deprives you of your sleep, it overflows you with a sense of joyous fulfillment.

It’s new, it’s passionate, it’s invigorating.

His honeyed words feel like ecstasy.

Things have been going really well lately and now you are wondering about his feelings towards you.

Is it just some wild sex making powered by a thirsty sex drive or is it passionate, caring, Cloud 9, sense altering love making? (1)

What are the signs he is making love to you?

Chill Karen, it’s just the beginning, who cares? We’ll see how it goes – you think to yourself, yet those making love vs. sex thoughts are somehow stronger. They shut every other rational thinking.

You can’t help it. You want to know, meanwhile those thoughts are lingering inside your brain and you are constantly torn between the two extremes:

Is it just some animalistic sex making because your energies seemed to have overlapped or is it that sensual, burning, slow type of making love that exceeds both chemistry and physical attraction? (2)

Everyone knows making love and having sex is not the same thing.

Duuh, right?

Yet, we all somehow struggle with making a clear distinction between the two.

Ever wondered why?

It’s because when love is happening to us, all our discerning powers vanish into thin air!

That’s fine. It happens to all of us.

Sex is…well, just sex. A natural hormone-influenced occurrence that functions like drug to the brain. But that just sex, when mingled with feelings, intimacy and a real connection, can turn into an emotional involvement that goes beyond having sex for the sake of having it.

But men are just about having sex! – you may think to yourself.

Stop right there.

We’ve all been there where love making hasn’t been our priority, but things change when you meet the right person.

We change, our thoughts change, our actions… EVERYTHING changes.

So, what are the signs he is making love to you, and it’s not just about sex?

All matters of the heart pose pondering dilemmas, which is why we’re here to help you identify the signs he’s making love to you, not just having sex:

1. He makes eye-contact with you

When a man wants to make love meaning he loves you, you will know it because he’ll be making eye-contact. Long, intense, scanner-like eye-contact. He’ll love making love to you – and his eyes will show you that more than his words ever will.

Eye-contact, especially when longer, is so deep and personal, so intimate; it is the internal dialogue of the eyes, that silent click of the senses.

If he is not afraid to dive into your eyes and see you, really see you, it means he is not just having sex. Making love is in question! As Tony Montana puts it, the eyes, chico, they never lie. A true case in point!

2. He goes heavy on the foreplay

We all know that making love is not just about that physical tiredness of the body, those time intervals of pleasure. It’s about the full immersion in a sensual experience.

You’ll know best that he is not just having sex when he takes time to kiss, he touches your body, and notices what particular gesture, touch, or kiss made your heart skip a beat, so he makes sure to repeat it.

You’ll know he is making love to you because he won’t rush the sex act, and he’ll take his time to explore every millimeter of your skin. He’ll simply love making love to you – there’s no other way to put it!

3. He takes your body’s hints

Because satisfying himself is not his priority, he’ll be much more observant. He’ll notice and take hints based on your reactions.

He’ll respond to your movements and gestures, to the hints your body is giving out, and most importantly he’ll be nervous throughout your making love. You can notice this because whenever he’ll recognize you don’t quite enjoy or respond well to something, he’ll either back down or ask you what’s wrong.

4. He is gentle in the bedroom as well

When having sex, he won’t suddenly become Mr. Beast that can’t be tamed. Rather, he’ll maintain the perfect balance between the rough and the tender.

He’ll be considerate of your wants and needs when making love to you, and you won’t feel like you are there just to satisfy a basic need. He’ll be loving, caring and receptive of the queues your body is sending him.

5. He cares about pleasing YOU

You’ll know that his making love won, like really won your heart because he puts you first.

Sex won’t be about finishing in a bit and then moving on to the next best thing – he’ll care about fulfilling every caprice, every wild, crazy fantasy of yours even if it takes being all covered up in sweat and literally fighting for breath! He’ll make that extra effort because he cares.

6. He will ask questions about it

He wants to make sure the sex gave you pleasure and satisfaction, and he will ask questions. Whether you enjoyed the act, whether you had an orgasm, or whether it lasted long enough for you to reach that finish line.

He is eager to listen to you, soak in the impressions, and emphasize that you should always communicate with him – he welcomes constructive criticism and is willing to implement it.

Why? Because he is making love to you, of course! He’s caught some feelings and the fact that he cares about your pleasure before his is a CLEAR sign of that.

7. He’ll initiate pillow talk

Does he like talking after just having sex? That’s another sign he’s making love to you! And if the pillow talk is fun, easy, effortless, and endless that you are late for stuff, guess what? You are in it for the real deal.

The sex glow is real, and it just makes you want to cuddle afterwards and talk for hours on end. You talk about silly things, you rewind the sex experience, or you try to find life’s purpose after making love, and this is not only deep, but it’s the perfect proof that you both love making love to each other. 

Otherwise, neither of you would’ve bothered staying in bed, bonding, and cuddling. That’s pure investment, right there.

8. He stops when you tell him to

This is a great sign that he is making love to you – he respects your boundaries. He wants you to enjoy the sex act because a man who wants more than just sex will treat you right outside of the bedroom and in it.

Whatever your reservations may be when it comes to physical intimacy, he will respect them. If you feel uncomfortable in a certain position or if you are uncomfortable doing something, he’ll understand. He won’t force you into anything and will never stretch your limits because the sex will be about MUTUAL satisfaction. Period.

9. He likes to cuddle after sex

He wants to be intimate long after the sex is over. Making love doesn’t stop when one of you collapses on top of the other in sweat. Instead, you feel happy and fulfilled.

It feels right and there are no cringing moments after the sex because you are both comfortable with your naked bodies, you cuddle and hug for hours, he lies on your chest in attempt to listen to your heartbeat, or he plays with your hair. He wraps his arms around you, soaking every inch of your skin – his hands are practically glued to your body.

It’s how you know making love won! You both have accepted your bodies, so that physical closeness, that comfort, and long-hour cuddling, when coming from the heart, cannot be faked nor mistaken for anything other than love, sweet love!

10. He chooses intimate positions

Face-to-face positions hint that the person you are with is into you. If he only chooses some fancy, twisted sex positions or doggy-style, odds are, you aren’t making love.

Bummer, we know.

But if the positions he uses instigate eye contact, intensity, and intimacy, we have some great news for you – he is making love!

Of course, sex is about experimenting and pleasure, and no one is denying that you should try new things, but if among that sexual rollercoaster intimate positions like missionary or cowgirl aren’t included at all, you may be wasting your time.

11. He goes down on you

A guy would go down on you even if he’s just sexually attracted to you. But when a man does this alongside all these other things, he is in for the long run. He loves your taste. He reciprocates. He pays attention. He hunts your reactions, your breathing, your sweet little moans.

He is romantic AND a giver. At the same time! Ever wondered why?

Well, because nothing matters more to him than pleasing you and satisfying you in bed – even if it means being a bit submissive and following your pace.

12. His personal hygiene will be spotless

You can see he put in some effort to look nice and to smell nice for you. He’ll be shaved, his beard will be in perfect line, and you’ll feel his perfume across 4 rooms.

When you are making love with someone you genuinely care about, you’ll pay attention to the smallest of details.

13. He is not rushing anything

After you finish making love, you don’t have the urge to get up, get your things, and vanish within 5 minutes. You feel good in his arms and you want it to last, but you are afraid he doesn’t feel the same. You are afraid he’ll get up and start to talk about how late he is for a meeting, or that he promised to meet his friends.

But no sir! He offers you lunch or coffee, a cigarette, even a glass of wine. He continues to lie in bed and just soak in your smell. BAM! That’s another sign that he is falling or has fallen for you already.

When he has no plans after the sex act and he is ready to enjoy a couple of peaceful hours with you, know that he is making love to you.

14. He lets himself be vulnerable in front of you

That means all selfishness and egotism aside. He’ll ask questions, he’ll seek affirmations that the sex is going well, and he’ll communicate with you. He won’t be afraid to start up bedroom conversations and ask whether you are enjoying the sexual innuendo and most importantly, he won’t be afraid to communicate his insecurities and imperfections with you.

He’ll be honest about his endurance or preferences, he’ll want to know how synchronized your bodies are, and that’s yet another sign he is making love to you. None of that macho man playing or anything.

15. He holds hands

This is really important. Is he holding your hands when making love or is he holding your neck in a firm grasp? If he is he grasping your neck or hair abort mission, we repeat, ABORT MISSION! Unless you want to get your heart stumbled upon.

To be sure that he is making love and not just satisfying a need in a whim of passion, don’t be the first to touch his hand – wait to see if he is the one initiating the hand holding or those gentle touches that feel warm and fuzzy.

Crude touches feel that way because they are not emotion-inspired; they just help you get a firmer grasp of your partner’s body, and when going for something serious, those are the things you want to avoid.

16. There is some dirty talk, but the sex is not based on it

He compliments you. He wants you to know how you make him feel. He won’t be afraid to whisper something romantic because he wants to be with you. He won’t feel less of a man for being cheesy or romantic or too honest or too loud in front of you.

There will be some dirty talk because hey, you are passionate about each other and you can be your kinky self, but you will also talk about feelings and emotions and when you are together, you’ll know he is making love because you won’t feel like a piece of meat. You’ll feel valued, loved, respected, and appreciated.

17. He waits for you

If he’s not making love but just having sex, he’d end all tired and panting, probably wanting to hit the shower right away – or just put his clothes on. But when a man is making love, he will try to cling closer to you and put his arms tighter around you. He won’t be selfish and self-oriented.

He will ask you if you are close, and he’ll go above and beyond to follow your timing. In case he is faster, he’ll want to continue right away so you can finish as well. After all, there’s two of you, right?  He knows that, and he acts accordingly.

18. He has a favorite night gown or lingerie of yours

Out of all the pieces of erotic clothing you own, he already has picked out his favorite one. He has told you what color he likes most on you or has even bought you some silky nightgown or seductive lingerie in that color.

He wants to spice things up, but always in a way that will make you feel loved and important – always in a way that will make you feel special.

19. You don’t feel lonely as soon as it’s over

He is not making love to you if you get this innate feeling of frustration, sadness, or loneliness. Things might be great during the physical act, he feels present, but as soon as it’s over you get hit by the somber reality: you are not a couple. 

He makes it physical. He makes it only about himself and it shows – that’s why you feel that way.

When a man is serious about you, after the sex is over, he stays in bed to cuddle and talk. That feeling of ecstatic happiness is so mighty that it uplifts your senses and brings joy to every atom inside of you. It feels different because it is different.

20. He wants to do it at home

On a cozy, spacious bed. With clean sheets and candles or dimmed lights. He takes time and plans the act. Sex with you for him is not happening out on a whim, it’s an experience. A journey. He wants you to be comfortable and to feel respected, which is why he is willing to let you enter his private sphere and wear his t-shirts after sex.

If he always initiates doing it in his car or somewhere out in the open for the sake of adrenaline, know that he isn’t quite making love to you. Carnal desire tends to be spontaneous, unplanned, less comfortable.

Making love, on the other hand, touches the private zone of our everyday lives, smashing our boundaries of both privacy and intimacy.

21. He doesn’t expect sex every time

Last but not least – not everything leads to sex! This is perhaps the most important indicator. Your cuddles don’t always end up with sex. That’s the biggest indicator that he is making love to you.

It means he plans a future with you – a bond that’s beyond the physical one; a bond that’s spiritual above all else and transcends the carnal, the animalistic, the hot-blooded… the lustful.

Conclusion

Making love is not cut and dry as it seems. It will never be. It varies for each person, because we all have different ways of connecting and expressing emotions.

The above-mentioned signs will inevitably help you differentiate between making love and having sex, but they are not mutually exclusive and vary from person to person.

One thing is certain though: when he is making love to you, you will be able to feel it. You’ll know it deep down in yourself because everything will feel more intense, cringe-free, and beyond comfortable.

You can mimic passion, but feelings? They are hard to fake, and that’s the beauty of love.

You deserve to be with someone who will know your worth. Someone to whom you’ll be more than good enough.

You deserve to be with someone who will show you the true meaning of love. Someone who will show you that love doesn’t have to be tough and painful. Someone who will show you what raw, genuine, deep love feels like. (1)

You deserve someone who is sure about you.

You deserve someone who will be willing to pull down the walls you’ve built around your heart to protect it. Because your heart got broken too many times. Because your trust was betrayed too many times. Because you committed to people who couldn’t see that you were a person that was the easiest to love. You were a woman with a heart of gold.

You committed to people for whom you were willing to fight with every part of yourself. But, they didn’t care about it.  They didn’t care about you.

That’s why you deserve someone whose biggest fear will be losing you. Someone who will walk through fire and fight demons to make you feel happy and protected.

You deserve to be with someone who won’t be afraid to love and be loved. Someone who won’t be ashamed to express their feelings. Instead, they will wear their heart on their sleeve and they’ll never make you doubt their love for you. (2)

You deserve to be with someone who won’t think that showing their vulnerabilities makes them look weak.

You deserve to be loved by someone who will make sure you know how special you are to them.

You deserve someone who will make your eyes glow with happiness when they’re around. Someone who will make your body tremble and your heart skip a beat at their touch. Someone who will be tender and supportive on your bad days and loving and passionate on your good days.

You deserve someone who will make you feel wanted.

Someone who will shower you with affection, sweet words, and compliments. Someone who you’ll always be able to rely on. Someone who will feel like home.

You deserve someone who will accept and love you for who you are and always let you be yourself.

Someone who will be aware of all your weaknesses and faults and who will have seen you at your worst, and still accept and cherish you the way you are.

You deserve someone who will be aware of your beauty, both outward and inward, and of the purity of your soul. Someone who will know that you’re the best thing that could have ever happened to them. That you’re their strength. Their guiding light. Their blessing.

You deserve to be loved by someone who will be patient with you and who won’t lose their temper and call you “needy,” “clingy,” or “boring” when you get emotional and show your vulnerable sides.

You deserve someone who will show understanding of your problems.

Someone who will patiently listen to you when you complain about what a bad day you had at work or about how much your best friend disappointed you. Someone who won’t leave you to fight your battles on your own.

Instead, they’ll stick with you through thick and thin. They’ll be your crying shoulder and greatest support. They’ll do their best to help you overcome your problems and see that gorgeous smile of yours on your face again.

You deserve someone who will enjoy spending time with you.

Someone to whom it won’t matter whether you spend the Saturday night in the best club in the city or at home, watching your favorite movie and eating pizza.

You deserve to be loved by someone who won’t make you beg for their attention and love.  (3)

You deserve someone who will be honest with and loyal to you.

Someone who will be both your best friend and an amazing lover. Someone who will respect your opinions, ideas, and decisions, but also tell you when you say or do something wrong or stupid.

You deserve someone who will show interest in the things you like. Someone who will do the seemingly unimportant things that actually mean a lot to you.

You deserve someone who will send you a bouquet of white roses to your office because they remember they’re your favorite ones. Someone who will leave you cute love notes on your pillow in the morning so that you begin the day knowing how much loved you are.

You deserve to be loved by someone who will tell you to text them when you get home because they want to know you’re safe and okay. Someone who won’t forget to ask you how your day went. Someone who will call you just to hear your voice. Someone who will terribly miss you when you’re not around.

You deserve someone who will be proud of everything you are and everything you do.

Someone who will show the world how grateful they are for having you in their life. Someone to whom you’ll be the most important person in the world.

You deserve to be loved by someone who won’t see you as a burden or just one more obligation they have to fulfill. Instead, you’ll be their strength. Their energy. Their priority.

You deserve to be with someone who will know your worth and remind you of it. Someone who will make you their choice every single day. Someone who will love you unconditionally and never give up on you.

Have you ever wondered why so many smart, confident, and attractive women are often single? Well, let’s get this straight – they aren’t single since they think they’re better than the rest, but because they can’t find men who deserve their attention, respect, and love.

It’s not that these women fear that someone might betray their trust and break their hearts. Or that they are solely interested in building a successful career and achieving high social status. The truth is that their high self-esteem and intellectual abilities prevent them from beginning a relationship with someone just for the sake of being in a relationship. (1)

They don’t want to waste their energy and time on a man that can’t keep up with them in all aspects of life. A man that’s afraid to wear his heart on his sleeve. A man that lacks confidence. A man that doesn’t bother to commit.

So, if you’ve been wondering why so many intelligent and gorgeous women are often single, make sure you read the following reasons:

1. They have very high standards.

These women are aware of their worth and they won’t accept to be with someone who isn’t compatible with them. Their partners must possess all the necessary characteristics this type of women are looking for in a man. Being strong, confident, independent, and driven matters a lot.

2. They put in a great deal of effort and energy in becoming accomplished in different spheres.

Super smart and gorgeous women like doing whatever they can to become more independent and improve themselves on a personal and professional level. They don’t wait for things to get done by themselves. On the other hand, it seems that men lack that ambition and commitment to shoot for high goals. This is something these women can’t stand. (2)

3. They already feel complete.

This kind of women doesn’t need a guy to feel emotionally complete and accomplished. They already have amazing friends and careers. They always look for new goals and passions to pursue. If they decide to be with someone, then he must respect and know how to deal with this.

4. They can’t tolerate bulls**t.

Hell yeah! Why would you think otherwise? These women would never allow someone to play little devious mind games with them. They’ll never let anyone juggle with their feelings, cheat on, and lie to them. They’ve had this kind of crappy experiences many times before and now they won’t let be manipulated again.

5. The childish dream of marrying the prince on a white horse does no longer exist.

Hah, they’ve grown up. They don’t believe in these delusions anymore. They don’t need a husband to feel safe and protected. They don’t need someone to watch them while they sleep at night. They even know that they don’t need a guy to have kids. They’re not afraid to be single mothers and pave the path to their happiness on their own.

6. They are never a second option.

These women always come first and will never settle for anything less than that. If most guys are so naïve to believe that they can easily replace these women with the first one they find on the social media, they’re awfully wrong. These women have a sixth sense and if they feel something strange is going on behind their backs, they’ll stop that even before it begins.

7. A lot of guys feel intimidated by smart and attractive women.

This kind of women is aware of their power as well. Yet, they’ll never consent to act as if they’re naïve or stupid so that they don’t diminish the confidence of some guy or make him feel inferior to them. These women know what they deserve and if men can’t deal with it, then I’m sorry, but it’s their loss.

There is a saying that love is blind. Sometimes, it is hard to pay attention to little details that show that our partner doesn’t love us. Especially when we really love him/her, and we want our relationship to last.

But, you must be aware and pay attention to the little details that your partner does or doesn’t do, so you can get the real picture of your relationship and whether it will, or it won’t work out between you two.

21 Signs Your Partner Doesn’t Love You:

1. Their Mind Starts Wandering

If you start noticing that your partner’s mind wanders often – it is not a good sign. When your partner stops listening to you as attentively as he/she was before, it is a sign that they no longer respect what you have to say, and their love might be fading. Maybe they are thinking about someone else?

2. They Start Blaming You For Everything

When you feel that you can’t confront your partner about anything that goes wrong in your relationship because somehow it all ends up being your fault, guess what? They do not care and love you enough to accept their mistakes and say they are sorry. Rather, they will make it seem like it is your fault than compromising themselves. (1)

3. They No Longer Respect You

When you notice that your partner’s behavior has shifted, and they are even disrespectful toward you-you know that is not a good sign. You can’t love someone who you don’t respect, and vice versa – you love only people you respect. So, when your partner stops respecting you, it is a clear sign that he/she has stopped loving you too.

4. They Always Find Excuses For Not Spending Time With You

When your partner starts spending more time at work and out with their friends, and can’t find time to meet with you-you know that you are no longer a priority to them. They indeed may be busy with work, but if they never make time to see you in their busy schedules, it may be a time for you to leave.

5. They Don’t Show You Any Signs Of Love And Affection

 You notice that your partner is not as loving and attentive as they were in the past. Even though this is a hard pill to swallow and it can hurt like hell, best is to accept the truth that your partner no longer loves you, move on with your life, and focus on yourself.

6. You Lack Conversation Topics

When you notice that you have more and more uncomfortable silences and it seems like you two don’t have anything to talk to, it might be a sign that you both have lost interest in each other. Sometimes, silence speaks louder than words, and when silence occurs usually the love dies.

7. They No Longer Support You

If you notice that your partner no longer seems to agree with you and support you and your plans – it might be a sign that you are no longer important to them. Plus, if you notice that they get annoyed and impatient when they are with you-you get the message.

8. They Stop Giving You Explanations

When you are not an important part of someone’s life, they won’t feel the need to give you explanations for their actions. When your partner no longer gives you any explanations that is because they no longer value you, and you should leave them because you deserve better.

9. They Don’t Consider You In Their Future Plans

You don’t need any further explanations for this. When your partner no longer mentions you in their future plans, you know that your relationship is doomed to end because they no longer see themselves with you.

10. They Start Talking About Other Women/Men

When you notice your partner looking at other people in front of you, or even start talking about how great they are looking – it is a sign that he/she stopped loving you and began looking and considering other options.

11. They Hurt You And Make You Hate Yourself

When your partner is disrespectful to your needs, or even lies to you, and cheats – they no longer care about your feelings and the pain you feel. Plus, you will start to hate yourself for it if you try to forgive them. So, walk away from the relationship before you start to lose yourself in the process of hate, blame, and hurt. (2)

12. They Start A Life On Their Own

You feel as though you don’t exist for them anymore. They ignore you completely and start to live their life as they please, apart from you. In the past, when they still had a love for you, they discussed things with you and made decisions together with you. But right now, they act as they are single.

13. They Start Avoiding You

You no longer see them even though you live together. They are doing that on purpose. They are avoiding you. Knowing your daily routine, they do anything to escape an encounter with you. They do this to make you realize that they no longer love you and want out.

14. They are not involved or even interested in your life

You used to do things together, but not anymore. It’s like they have suddenly lost all interest in you and what you are doing. They suddenly hate everything about you. They don’t respect you or your interests. They are also not interested in going out with you or doing something together.

15. They are rude and condescending towards you

They are very harsh with their words, both in public and in private. They are not choosing their words. They demean you, and they don’t care whether you get hurt or not. Their harshness and rudeness are their way of letting you know they don’t want to be with you anymore.

16. They are secretive, hide their phone, and lie to you

They get ready, look at their phone, smile, and leave without even telling you where they are going and with whom! They stopped informing you where they are and when are coming back. They hide their phone so that you can’t see with whom they are communicating. They even lie to you when you ask them about their whereabouts. These are clear signs that they stopped loving and caring about you. (3)

17. They are hot and cold

One moment they are all over you, the next they are pushing you away. They play the game of hot and cold and that means that even they don’t know what they are feeling. They don’t have love like they had for you, but there may be some feelings left, so they are trying to decide whether to leave you or not.

18. They get angry easily

They get angry at the slightest little thing. It is as if day by day, their tolerance levels are getting lower and their annoyance is getting higher. Your connection is slowly but surely becoming a battlefield. You yell at each other without a reason and that’s because they want to break things with you.

19. They no longer say “I love you”

You stopped acting like two people who love each other. You also stopped saying loving things to one another. Your partner has stopped saying “I love you to you.” Of course, actions speak louder than words, but when there are no loving actions and the loving words are missing as well, this is a big red flag.

20. They stop making you happy

They stopped doing all those things you like and make you happy. They are not even trying to make you happy anymore. They just don’t care. Whether you are happy, angry, or sad – they don’t give a damn. When this kind of indifference is present in your relationships, it is practically over between you because the love is long gone.

21. They avoid having sex with you

If they lose interest in having sex with you, then it is a clear sign that your relationship is in serious trouble. Once your partner loses interest in sharing intimacy with you, then their feelings for you are lost as well. If they never initiate love-making then the truth is, they don’t love you anymore.

What To Do?

If you have noticed this sign in your partner’s behavior towards you, the best thing you can do for yourself is leave. You can stay with someone who doesn’t love you. You cannot do that to yourself. You can’t stay and continue hurting yourself.

Life is hard as it is, and you need to be someone who will make your life better. Someone who will make you happy and fulfilled. Someone who will love you as you are, flaws and all.

Let’s not mince words here, dating can be fun and amazing. However, more often than not, it is just a waste of time. Can you count all the failed relationships in your life? I’m sure that most of them ended because of a jerk who didn’t call you back or stopped respecting you.

The truth is: You don’t need that!

You don’t need to wait for someone to call you or ask someone to respect you. You don’t need a person who will lie to you or a person who wants you to change.

I know, he is gorgeous and sexy and you know that nobody is perfect so maybe you could just give him one more chance. He’ll change, you say to yourself. But the reality is: he probably won’t! Everyone has flaws, but cheating and lying are choices. Choices that he made consciously. You don’t need that.

Everyone has flaws, but cheating and lying are choices. Choices that he made consciously. You don’t need that.

From my experience, it looks like most of the available good-looking guys are jerks. That’s why I decided not to take the risk and I’m staying single until I’m sure that I’ve found a genuinely great guy. And honestly, I enjoy being single.

It’s great to do whatever you want every single day. Nobody judges me when I spend hours doing my nails or stay at home during the weekend just to watch reality shows.

And another thing – I don’t miss a guy in my life. I realized that looking for the right guy is not so important as it seemed to me before. Now I know that being alone is not the same as feeling lonely. You can feel lonely even if you are in a relationship. Being alone is liberating!

I don’t need another cute guy who will turn out to be a douchebag. I don’t want that! I want to be myself and do the things I like. I feel free to explore and conquer the world!

Nothing can stop me now. After many experiences with douchebags, no guy can fool me into going along that road again. I know that all of them are fun at the beginning, but that doesn’t prove that they are good guys.

That is why I address this text to all the girls who had a jerk in their lives. You don’t deserve that! You are powerful, free-willed and independent and you can be whatever you want in your life.

You don’t need a guy to succeed or travel the world. Especially not an asshole who puts out the fire in you.

Don’t allow to be fooled by the puppy-eye look or the sweet words. You know what he did to you! Don’t let him do it again.

Don’t be afraid to be alone. You don’t need dating to be happy. Happiness is much more than that! It’s feeling comfortable and free.

Even if you choose to date, do it carefully. Do it bearing in mind that you have everything you need – yourself. And don’t forget that all the other guys also seemed perfect at the beginning.

Enjoy living life by yourself. Time goes by very quickly and you don’t want to waste it, do you? At the end, you want to be sure that you’ve had everything you wished for and not feel sorry that you wasted your nerves, energy and time on someone who simply wasn’t worth it.

Always remember that if you don’t love yourself, the others won’t love you either. By loving yourself I mean enjoying life freely and not sacrificing yourself for someone who doesn’t even respect you.

Be strong and fierce, because you have to be, in order to succeed in today’s world. And you don’t need anyone for that.

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection” – Buddha